"Friends" At School.

[Jacklyn [J1NXX]]

Okay, I know school is not normally enjoyable with all of the homework and classwork and teachers but since the beginning of school I've had a different stress that was worse than all of those.

I have some friends that I've known for years that I hang out with in the morning before the 1st period bell rings. Before I got to high school we got along great. They seemed like very nice people and they never really fought that much.

But when we all got into high school we've been having more fights.
Kay, let's get to what I think it is.
You know how one person's energy can affect everyone elses? Well, I have this friend who has been a friend for 2 years and she's really changed. She's very negative, she gets angry for little reasons (such as someone trying to help her in computer class), she glares at people she doesn't even know when they walk near us- no matter if it's someone's friend or not. She is rude to new people who come over. All of us are kind of getting tired of it because she is supposed to be our friend. Not our enemy. She flirts with a guy she knows I like in front of me when she has a boyfriend. I'm not sure if I'm just being paranoid and stupid or if I should talk to her about it, AGAIN. (I've told her about her behavior many times.)
She intimidates my friends from Junior High so they don't talk to her about it and do whatever she wants.

I'm sorry if I seem like a bad friend or bad person for writing this, but she's made people very sad multiple times and I'm getting a bit sick of it. =/

[Shadow_Kitten]

I've been through something very similar to this but I don't really want to talk about it here though so I'll pm you, lol.

You're not a bad friend or a bad person.

[moondaughter]

My dear, I am so very sorry. I am actually going through an experience quite similar right now. And what I want you to know is that you are putting more into this friendship than you are getting out, big time. Which is not healthy. Now, this is not to say that you can't be her friend and you never can hang out with her again. Maybe you just don't do everything with her and as scary or intimidating as it might seem, if she continues to be like this, talking to her is the best option...((hugs)) I hope that I could help, and if I think of anything else I will let you know.

[Jacklyn [J1NXX]]

Thanks everyone. =)
*hugs*
I've tried to talk to her to her face (most of the times it was on the phone) but I guess it seemed like a was about to fight her because all my friends were holding me back and standing in front of her and I'm like "O.o WTF?" And they were freaking out. "GO STAND OVER THERE! CALM DOWN! WE DON'T NEED THIS FIGHTING" so I'm like "J00 iz crazy." >.>
I wasn't yelling at her, I was just telling her how she was treating me and other people was not the right way.
I'm talking to her less and less, trying to make the friendship fizzle but it seems like she's always around. o.o If she acts up again I'm going to talk to her about it.
Today she was freaking out because and a friend were being a bit loud so she went over to a piller, yelled, and sulked, so I politely said "OH THE TEENAGE ANGST."
Thanks everyone for reading. =)

[moondaughter]

We are here to listen...
And well letting the friendship fizzle is the best route I think..so best of luck and keep us updated!

[Jacklyn [J1NXX]]

I will and thanks for listening!

I am a valued member.

[moondaughter]

Yes you are!! I've said it before and I'll say it now, this place is like a second family to me...

[NozUK]

As moondaughter said, you're getting out alot less than you're putting in which isn't good, and it sounds like she can be hostile and mean and just not a great friend. So you're right to try and back away, it's just tricky if you want to do it without evoking further hostility.

It's also pretty important to wonder why she's behaving the way she is, could be she has something of her own going on or something big changed her.. I guess you'd have mentioned something like that and it'd be pretty apparant, but I mean maybe.

[Jacklyn [J1NXX]]

Yes, I feel that way too.
One of my theories is her mother. Not to sound rude but her mother spoils her so much! If she wants something she'll throw a fit and get it. I believe she thinks it works that way with everyone. She does it at work, with teachers, everyone.
She also talks behind my back about me and my boyfriend. He lives in Mississippi and she thinks that our relationship won't work. (He lived here but moved)
"WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO? HAVE PHONE SEX OR SOMETHING?"
I think she thinks that if you're in a relationship that means you have to have sex. But oh well, karma got her for that. =/

[moondaughter]

haha...karma is good for that...

[Jacklyn [J1NXX]]

lol, I hope all of you don't think I'm complaining too much. =/

[moondaughter]

I don't...more venting that complaining...to me, it sounds like this is the only place that you have to talk about this...your friends seem to be on edge with it...and it seems like a rather "hot button" issue at school...so just know that we are here to listen to you vent...and definitely keep us updated...

[Jacklyn [J1NXX]]

It is actually. =/
A lot of the forums I joined has members that are really negative, so they'd probably say things like "LOL I DUN THINK ANY1 CAREZ LOLOLOL!!!!1111!1one"
And I can't talk about it to anyone on myspace cause she's on my friend list. And other people would probably tell her about it.
I love how everyone in this forum is really nice and positive. It's like a breath of fresh air. =)
I will definitely keep you all updated and thanks again for listening. =)

[moondaughter]

Well, I am sorry that some forums have been bad in the past, but we do care here and never hesitate to share or ask for advice here...we got your back... pm me if you ever need anything

[Jacklyn [J1NXX]]

Thanks. =)
ILY ALL. ^^