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[wolflynn]

I am writing for a reason. I need your advice on two subjects. Lets start with the first one.
For starters, eversince I was little girl, around 10, I had certain gifts. As I grow older people called me a witch and a freak. I had no friends so I learn the act of Wiccan by a woman how help me deal with my gifts. It has been over 20 years since I learn to control my powers or even practice magic or witchcraft.
Now to the point to were I am. I have given more to others then I ever did for myself. I never asked for anything.
For seven years I scarified myself, if not did everything, for a man who never even loved me. I was his slave until he could meet the right woman. A real whore. I am not joking. She is one. She love to take other women’s husbands. I lose 40 lbs. Suffered a depression. Even wanted to commit suicide, thank to my little dog Jassy, I am still alive. She saved my life.
I want to re-open my gifts. I want to continue with my study of wicca. Also I found a spell how to lose weight. Can I find that will help you grain weight. Here’s why.
Hubby left me because he doesn’t love big fat disgusting woman like me. I am no good for any man. That nobody will love a person like me. Even with 40 lbs off, I am still ugly.
I want to find a spell that will make her grain weight. Nothing to harm her, just to teach them a lesson that you don’t destroy a person’s life because they are fat, or that they are different. Think about it, she is supposed to be a nurse who takes care of dying people. Glade I don’t go to that hospital.
Can you find a spell that would be good for him also. I know he lost 60 lbs and take himself for a 17 year old, (he’s 50).
I am a shy person. The more important thing is I want to really re-open my gifts and put them to good use. I want to help others. What do you think. Can I do this at 52? I forgot to say that I am also a Druid.

Blessing,

Wolflynn

[watershield]

Hello wolflynn
First, greetings and welcome to he site

I can understand the pain that you have and are feeling, but asking for a spell to cause harm in any way to another person is unethical.
Not only is it wrong, but in my opinion, as you would be attempting to control the free will of another person, I doubt you would have any success.

You need to forget about Him and her, stop wasting energy on things that you are better rid of.
Start doing things for yourself. Be kind to yourself. Focus on what is important to you.

[wolflynn]

I know you are right. I should be placing all of my energy on myself but it is hard to do when he dosen't leave me alone. I don't even bother them, or do anything wrong, and I still have a lot of problems anyway. She is always on his back about wanting me to move far away from him. And he is on my back in wanting me to leave this town and move to another town. I don't know what to do. It is also hard to find a place because I have a dog. I have this feeling that the way she is acting is because she feels I am a treat to her. How or why I don't know. Yes I will follow your advice and focus more on myself. I have a lot of healing to do. It would be easyer if they would clam down and leave me alone.

[watershield]

Not knowing where you are makes it difficult, but I'm thinking your in Canada.

Maybe moving to another town might be good for, question is, if it's so important for him and her that you do move, are they going to pay for it and help you get set up?
I know that if I lived in Montreal I'd prefer Quebec City myself, for the Joy de Vive (sorry not sure about the spelling) and the opportunities for jobs in the tourist industry should be better.

[wolflynn]

Yes Quebec City is a wonderful town. I have lived there before. Very good with your french words. And no He won't help at all. I have nothing in this house. Everything will belong to her. This is a woman who is renting her five bedroom house, at 300.00 each, has a good paying job, nice car, but she still need more. I have to start all over from the beginning. Remember I was nothing to him but his slave, to do everything for him. So why should he be nice to me? But I don't worry. My brother knows that I want to continue my teaching in Wicca. It so happen he met, by accident, a woman that is wiccan, he talked about me, and my about my gift, and she is willing to be my teacher. She is going to take me and jassy with her for a while until I can find my own place to stay. So thinks are no that bad after all. I have disided to put my gifts to good used. I have police training, so why not work in unsolve cases. My brother has connections, I would not have any problem working in the police file. I would like to think you for your help in guiding me into the right path. I now know that it would have been a mistake to want revange. Sometime when you feel alone, you feel like doing stupid things. Depression can do that to a person. Thank you my friend. Blessing, wolflynn

[watershield]

I wish you well and Bon Chance

[Ebony]

first off, Hello and welcome Wolflynn.

I can really sympathize with you and what you are going through. I went through the same thing last year. I wont give details here because this thread is about you. I'll just say that I was left with nothing, and I chose to move away from him. I know it's hard to hear, but things do happen for a reason - when a door closes a window opens.

Not everyone can be a model, and you need to accept that you are a beautiful person just as you are. If he was telling you the negative things, no one would want you, you are fat and ugly, these are terrible things, and fall under the terms of mental abuse. So, realize that this was just another way to control you so you would not see what was happening in the relationship.

your husband and his new girlfriend have no right to ask you to move away. If they don't want to be near you, then it is for them to move. Focus on your gift and the person your brother introduced you to who is willing to help you. It may seem devastating now, but you will see that soon, you will be able to take care of yourself and do things your way, without someone else telling you what you should do.

Many blessings ~