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Post by moondaughter on Oct 25, 2008 14:05:43 GMT 1
Okay, so I recently started my freshman year of highschool, and it sucks. I've had so many friends decide that they don'not want to be my friends anymore and just like ditch me. Which I me I guess that I embarass them because I really don't care what people think of me, so I just do what I want, regardless of who is around. And like the school work is not that hard...so I'm bored...and like homecoming was so ridiculously anti-climatic....I'm just looking for some hope that sophmore year will be remotely redeeming.
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Post by lisa on Oct 25, 2008 17:18:29 GMT 1
Here's a little insight that may or may not help...
Looking back at High School...and reconnecting recently with a few people...it seems...those who were the not so popular, geeks, and academics have turned out to be interesting and successful...and those who were the "popular" and seemed to have it all going for them have really not made anything of themselves....one specific girl's biggest achievement over the past 10 years is "remaining sober"....
If I could do High School all over again, knowing what I know now...I would do things a bit differently....luckily by senior year I sort of figured it out...I cycled through a whole lot of friends...but I kept only those I found interesting...not necessarily popular...those who were genuine, kind, giving, intelligent...ect...
Recently, I e-mailed one of these people, I had not seen him in about 13 years....I wasn't sure he'd even remember me...not only did he remember me...but he told me out of the select few people he was friends with in High School, he was glad he knew me and I was not someone who could ever be forgotten ....it was a huge compliment...especially since I always valued him as someone worth knowing...
I guess, my point is...the only people who are truly worth knowing are those who truly care to know you...High School is a test for the real world...don't stress about growing out of relationships...you are an old soul...so I would expect High School to be sort of tedious for you....just take advantage of the academics...that is all I can say...look for interesting people to associate yourself with...and just be...it's a short period of time...enjoy it for what it's worth, the best way you can...
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Post by moondaughter on Oct 25, 2008 17:30:11 GMT 1
Thanks Lisa...I guess that makes sense...I mean I know that growing out of friendships is for the best sometimes...it definitely was in this case. But this girl was my best friend for three years, and then within the first few weeks of school decided that we weren't friends anymore. And like as far as our friendship goes, she wasn't a very good one...she was very abusive, and I was a better friend to her than she to me. So this really is for the best, I just hate the way she is handling it...she is spreading around rumors and trying to say that its my fault that we aren't friends...which is complete bull shit because she left me to go hang out with her cousin so she could get "in" with the upper classman and be "popular." First of all, I go to an arts school...no one is popular, we are all the nerdy band geeks, drama freaks, dance nerds, etc from all the other schools. Everyone knows everyone and is, generally, friendly with everyone...so I don't even understand why she just up and left, but I've felt like abandoned and like I said, she's spreading rumors...and I'm just tired of freshman year already, and the first marking period is ending in like 2 days.
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Post by lisa on Oct 25, 2008 18:02:13 GMT 1
I always found being rejected by a girl-friend was always more devestating than being rejected by boyfriend...maybe because as a girl you give more to your friendships and it cuts deeper...
People are mean because they can be, it makes them feel better about themselves when they can make you feel bad about yourself...it sucks...but for what it's worth...know, you do have some friends here...who value you and think great things about you...and think you are worth knowing...
Now...not to change the subject...but tell me more about school...where does your creativity lie?
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Post by moondaughter on Oct 25, 2008 20:59:40 GMT 1
Yeah that does make sense...and this chick had severe self esteem issuse...so that kinda explains it.
I am a musician through and through. I play bass clarinet in the indoor band, and soprano clarient in the marching band. I also know how to play the flute, the saxaphone, and a bit of the guitar, I'm trying to get my friends Sam and Emily to help me with guitar. I really want to be a singer/songwriter when I grow up and music is like a huge huge huge part of my life.
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Post by lisa on Oct 26, 2008 0:15:39 GMT 1
That's really great...although I tried...I am not musically inclined...and I always admire/envy those to whom it comes naturally.... well...now Ms. Hannah...seeing that you be of the creative sort...you need to use my most favorite of defense mechanisms....Sublimation....take all this miserableness and turn it into something beautiful...a song...some of my most best....okay...all of my poetry came from some really devestating times...years later...one by one they are all being published...so at the time although I was hurting...looking back...had I never gone through it...I wouldn't have the poems.... Writers, musicians, artists...are of a different breed...we tend to feel more than most...it is part of what makes us able to do what we do...it's a harder path...but part of our gift is the ability to create something great from the not so great...it also helps the healing process to sort of purge it from your system...get it out on paper...you will feel much better... I am currently trying to find something witty to rhyme with "botched hysterectomy"....  |
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Post by moondaughter on Oct 26, 2008 0:46:13 GMT 1
I guess that would explain the insane urge to write I have been having the past couple of weeks...I do have a journal, but like I always get paranoid that someone is going to find it, read what I said about this chick, and then she will be even angier with me...which I know isn't really a valid fear, so I should just suck it up and write about it...lol...and I've been wanting to write a song for awhile now, so maybe this is like my inspiration...shame I had to lose a friend...but I suppose its for the best.
Haha...nothing comes to mind that rhymes with "botched hysterectomy,"...as I told you before, my thoughts and energies are with you, love.
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Post by PaganOne on Nov 2, 2008 23:06:21 GMT 1
Okay, so I recently started my freshman year of highschool, and it sucks. I've had so many friends decide that they don'not want to be my friends anymore and just like ditch me. Which I me I guess that I embarass them because I really don't care what people think of me, so I just do what I want, regardless of who is around. And like the school work is not that hard...so I'm bored...and like homecoming was so ridiculously anti-climatic....I'm just looking for some hope that sophmore year will be remotely redeeming. My daughter is much like you, moondaughter. In high school she was friends with who she chose to be friends with no matter what anyone else thought of her. Granted it did cost her and at times hurt her, but she couldn't be anything less than who and what she was. I admire her greatly. I have always tried to teach my children by example that people's opinions buy you nothing when it all comes out in the wash. I'm glad to know she was paying attention. If your classes are boring and easy, you might want to ask if your school has an advanced/gifted program. My son took advanced classes and college courses (via video cam in the class room) and it paid big dividends in getting him into college and he got credit for the college classes he took in high school. We did have to pay for the college classes but it was at a much cheaper rate. Opps.... I am allowed to post in here?  |
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Post by moondaughter on Nov 6, 2008 1:54:06 GMT 1
Haha...well I'm already in all honors classes, which is the highest the offer. And things have gotten at least interesting, so maybe when we get further into the year, it'll bet challenging.
Yeah its cool if you post here...As long as you are allowed to relate to teenagers and be sympathetic rather than condescending, I'm fine with it...your advice is always welcome.
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Post by shrine on Nov 6, 2008 18:02:52 GMT 1
My goodness!
I remember when i started high school. a soon as i started i felt different from the others. i wasn't popular, i was sort of the class clown (it was my way of showing i was nervous) and i hate the fact that i was. a few of my friends dumped me to go off with the popular kids, but my best friends (all five of them) stayed with me. it made school easier for me.
I'm glad that your doing so well at school, and i truly hope you find friends worth having there soon.
Never change.
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Post by mollimizz on Nov 8, 2008 5:51:53 GMT 1
Writers, musicians, artists...are of a different breed...we tend to feel more than most...it is part of what makes us able to do what we do...it's a harder path...but part of our gift is the ability to create something great from the not so great...it also helps the healing process to sort of purge it from your system...get it out on paper...you will feel much better... I am currently trying to find something witty to rhyme with "botched hysterectomy"....
Write poetry, short stories...etc
I was one of the "ugly ducklings", the kids you saw in the corner
waiting patiently for the bell to ring so I could be invisible again.
I had my step-cousins to associate with. We had to pair up in
class for somethings...I was the one who sat volunteerily sat
with Gay (she smalled like sour milk but was a sweetheart)
Anyway my point is it's only for a few years and you may not
see many after school. If you only find one true friend in school that may be enough to last the lifetime !
Rhymes with...botched hysterectomy-look what he's done to me.
Gentle Light
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Post by moondaughter on Nov 9, 2008 21:56:57 GMT 1
really?!?!? you play clarinet?!?! I've played clarinet since 4th grade...
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Post by muladzh on Nov 10, 2008 2:13:27 GMT 1
I tried a clarinet once. I admire anyone who can get a harmonic note out of one. I can't, but I can play any flute, whistle or recorder. I would love to play clarinet or saxophone, but all I get out of them is a pathetic squealing noise.
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Post by moondaughter on Nov 11, 2008 18:33:34 GMT 1
hmm...maybe it was more the reed's fault then the musicians...
music is just something that comes very naturally to me. I can play clarinet, sax, flute an some guitar...I really wanna learn every woodwind ever like invented...that would be amazing
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Post by wolfsbane00010 on Nov 17, 2008 6:15:02 GMT 1
I tried the clarinet, the flute and the trumpet. I couldn't play a single one. Then I tried the baratone, a large instrument where you need large lung space. Played it perfectly ;D
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